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Desire: Favorite Readings

Below is a list of favorite readings recommended by the speakers in the telecourse, "Desire: Sex, Judaism and Feminism":

Talli Rosenbaum, "Nidda, sex and intimacy in Jewish marriage", http://tallirosenbaum.com/en/node/129

Talli Rosenbaum, “I am his vessel”: Influence of male ejaculatory restrictions on women’s sexual autonomy in Orthodox Jewish marriages.https://www.academia.edu/12279983/_I_am_his_vessel_Influence_of_male_ejaculatory_restrictions_on_women_s_sexual_autonomy_in_Orthodox_Jewish_marriages

Michelle Friedman, Ellen Labinsky, Talli Y. Rosenbaum, James Schmeidler, and Rachel Yehuda “Observant Married Jewish Women and Sexual Life: An Empirical Study” October 2009, Ideas.https://www.jewishideas.org/articles/observant-married-jewish-women-and-sexual-life-empi

David Ribner and Jennie Rosenfeld (2011) The Newlywed's Guide to Physical Intimacy. http://www.amazon.com/Newlywed-Guide-Physical-Intimacy/dp/9652295353/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1431461006&sr=1-1&keywords=jenny+rosenfeld

David S. Ribner & Peggy J. Kleinplatz, "The hole in the sheet and other myths about sexuality and Judaism", Sexual and Relationship Therapy Volume 22, Issue 4, 2007 http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681990701297797?journalCode=csmt20

Melanie Landau, "When Silence is Not Consent" The Forward, June 30, 2015 http://forward.com/sisterhood/311162/when-silence-is-not-consent/#ixzz3ghSsTyg0

Melanie Landau, "Tisha B’Av, Tu B’Av and My Journey of Sexual Healing" The Forward July 21, 2015 http://forward.com/sisterhood/312327/tisha-bav-tu-bav-and-my-journey-of-sexual-healing/

Barry W McCarthy, "Why We Should All Aspire to 'Good Enough' Sex: How to drop unrealistic expectations and just enjoy each other." Psychology Today  May 14, 2015 https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/whats-your-sexual-style/201505/why-we-should-all-aspire-good-enough-sex

Hadassa Braun Margolese, "Humiliated at the mikveh". http://jewishmom.com/2013/08/12/humiliated-at-the-mikveh/

Video about mikveh from Mayyim Hayyim http://www.mayyimhayyim.org/Resources/Video

Danya Rottenberg, (2009) The Passionate Torah: Sex and Judaism (NYU Press) http://www.amazon.com/The-Passionate-Torah-Sex-Judaism/dp/0814776051

Lisa Grushcow, ed (2014) The Sacred Encounter: Jewish Perspectives on Sexuality (CCAR Press) http://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Encounter-Perspectives-Sexuality-Challenge/dp/0881232033/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1431460910&sr=1-1&keywords=the+sacred+encounter

Chaya Rosenfeld Gorsetman and Elana Maryles Sztokman, Educating in the Divine Image: Gender issues in Orthodox Jewish Day Schools> Chapter Five: "Building Intimate Relationships: Sex education and Judaism", pp 168-202

Alyssa GoldsteinWhen Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men: And how the stereotype flipped. / AlterNet March 19, 2013 http://www.alternet.org/when-women-wanted-sex-much-more-men

Talli Rosenbaum, "Ten Tips for Raising Sexually Healthy Orthodox Sons" 12/05/2014 http://tallirosenbaum.com/en/node/215

Talli Rosenbaum, "Ten Tips for Raising Sexually Healthy Orthodox Daughters" 05/15/2014 http://tallirosenbaum.com/en/node/193

Sexual Desire Discrepancy as a Feature, Not a Bug, of Long-Term Relationships: Women’s Self-Reported Strategies for Modulating
Sexual Desire Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH,*† Margo Mullinax, MPH,*† and Kristen Mark, PhD, MPH‡

 

TED talks

Michelle Weiner-David, "The Sex-starved Marriage", TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ep2MAx95m20 

David Page, "Why Sex Really Matters", https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQcgD5DpVlQ

Nicole Daedone, "Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9QVq0EM6g4

 

Useful websites:

Jewrotica blog (Ayo Oppenheimer) www.jewrotica.com

Kosher sensuality (David Ribner) https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kosher-Sensuality/480284982004001

Talli Rosenbaum's blog http://tallirosenbaum.com/en/home

Michael Bader http://www.michaelbader.com/psychology_sexuality.html

Worksheets and tools http://www.michaelmetzphd.com/handouts.html#sexenrich

 

Dr. David Ribner's list of original Hebrew/Aramaic sources on sexuality:

סנהדרין כא א on women shaving pubic hair

בעלי הנפש - שער הקדושה להראב"ד

נדרים כ read til the end

נידה עא א on men's recommended involvement with female orgasm

שו"ע אבן העזר כג א - see the addition of the עזר הקודש regarding a somewhat more lenient position regarding male masturbation

Dr. David Ribner's English language bibliography of Judaism and sexuality:

Bulka, R.P. (1986) Jewish Marriage: A Halakhic Ethic. New York: Ktav.

Burt, V. K. & Rudolph, M. (2000). Treating an Orthodox Jewish woman with obsessive-compulsive disorder: Maintaining reproductive and psychologic stability in the context of normative religious rituals. American Journal ofPsychiatry, 157, 620-624.

Feldman, D. M. (1968). Birth control in Jewish law: Marital relations, contraception and abortion as set forth in the classic texts of Jewish law. New York: New York University Press.

Friedman, A. P. (1996). Marital intimacy: A traditional Jewish approach. Northvale, NJ: Jason

Grazi, R.V. (1994). Be fruitful and multiply. Jerusalem: Genesis Jerusalem Press.Aronson.

Lamm, M. (1980). The Jewish way in love and marriage. New York: Jonathan David Publishers.

Lichtenstein, A. (2005). Of marriage: Relationship and relations. Tradition, 39(2), 7-35.

Ostrov, S. (1978). Sex therapy with orthodox Jewish couples. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 4(4), 266-278.

Petok, W. D. (2001). Religious observance and sex therapy with an Orthodox Jewish couple. Journal of Sex Education and Therapy, 25, 22-27.

Ribner, D.S. & Rosenbaum, T.Y. (2006). Classical Jewish perspectives on sex. In M. Tepper & A. Owens (Eds.), Encyclopedia ofSexual Health. New York: Praeger.

Ribner, D.S. & Kleinplatz, P.J. (2007). The hole in the sheet and other myths about sexuality and Judaism. Accepted for publication inSexual and Relationship Therapy.

Ribner, D.S. (2006). The dead little girl. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 21:1, 71-85.

Ribner, D.S. & Rosenbaum, T.Y. (2005). Evaluation and treatment of unconsummated marriages among Orthodox Jewish couples. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 31:4, 341-353.

Ribner, D.S. (2004). Ejaculatory restrictions as a factor in the treatment of Haredi (Ultra-Orthodox) Jewish couples. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 33:3, 303-308.

Ribner, D.S. (2003). Determinates of the intimate lives of Haredi (Ultra-Orthodox) Jewish couples. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 18:1, 55-65.

Ribner, D.S. (2003) Modifying sensate focus for use with Haredi (Ultra-Orthodox) Jewish couples. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 29:2, 165-172.

Shlanger, R.M. (1994).Ohel Rachel: The achievement of unity in marriage. Israel (no publisher listed).

Soloveitchik, J.B. (2000). Family redeemed. New York: Toras HoRav Foundation.

Westheimer, R. K. & Mark, J. (1995). Heavenly sex: Sexuality in the Jewish tradition. New York: New York University Press.

Zimmerman, D. R. (2005). A lifetime companion to the laws of Jewish family life. Jerusalem: Urim Publications.

 

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